Co-Create
The Family Life You've Always Wanted

These Problems Are Daunting, But We're Here To Help!

A Letter to Potential Clients

Friends,

Every three months we host a small group of couples and single parents from the St. George area to break the mold and co-create family lives that are surprisingly loving, easy, and fun. 

We do this without adding more tasks to our busy schedules or increasing our parent guilt. In fact, we systematically eliminate tasks and guilt. 

Our last clients came to us with years of friction built up around “planning meetings” and “systems.” Just the mention of doing something every quarter nearly scared them off. But after completing several workshops, they said they were finally finding the balance between structure and free-flow that they’d been searching for for years and it was making parenting so much easier. And even better, they had let go of so much of the friction in their relationship as they began to truly get on the same page. They told us “Somehow you guys created a process that works for both of us. We thought that would be impossible.” 

Another client, a single dad, wanted to create a richer family culture so his two teens would feel more connected to him and each other. He had a history of setting goals and making commitments to be the kind of dad he wanted to be, and failing because he just didn’t have a framework to support his goals. After completing a year of quarterly workshops, he said he feels much more confident in his relationship with his kids. He said “I always knew that showing up and being an intentional dad was important to me, I just didn’t think I could actually do it. Now I’m feeling like one of the best dads I know.” 

How did they get these results? They joined FamilyC. 

You see, most parents are so busy working IN their family that they don’t take the time to work ON their family. Which keeps them stuck in the relentless grind. 

At FamilyC, we’ve discovered a magical formula that breaks this cycle and helps parents get on a very different track. All it takes is one day every quarter. You simply process what happened in the past quarter and get clear on what you want to happen in the next quarter. Together. 

It sounds so simple, but almost NOBODY is doing this. 

Can you picture what it would feel like if every few months you retreated together to a pleasant environment and paused to notice, name, and celebrate:

• Your SUCCESSES as parents and partners, big and small, over the last few months. It’s probably amazing how many WINS you’re having right now if you’ll pause to notice. 

• The CHALLENGES you’ve been facing, pausing to notice why they’re so hard and giving yourself some compassion. No wonder you’ve been struggling - look what you’ve been dealing with!

• Specific items of APPRECIATION for yourself or your partner. Can you remember how motivating it is to feel SEEN and VALIDATED for being you?

It feels so good to honor your experience, share some appreciation, and get back on the same page. 

Even if ALL you got by signing up for FamilyC was some guided time and space to review your lives together and celebrate your wins, notice your challenges, and give yourselves and each other compassion and validation every few months, how much would that be worth to you? 

But that’s only part of the experience. Once you’ve processed your past quarter together and gotten back into alignment, you plan out the next quarter. You’ll look at your calendar, see what’s coming up, and identify what needs to be done and who will do it. Only it won’t feel as much like work as you think, because at this point you’re really vibing and you can remember why you’re doing life together in the first place. So looking at your upcoming events and projects can actually create a feeling of excitement and energy.

Now, going through this process of reviewing and planning one single time can reduce some of the friction in your relationship and maybe even begin unlocking some new energy. 

But this isn’t just a one-time thing. This is something you’ll want to hit repeat on. Here’s why. The amazing feeling you have after going through this process carries with you for days, weeks, maybe even months. But as you know, sooner or later, life is going to kick you in the beans. If you're a parent and/or partner, $h*t’s gonna happen. And over time it’ll prove too much to handle and you’ll inevitably fall out of sync with your partner and maybe your kids. Then the old patterns will start surfacing again and you’ll start to lose hope. 

Just then, you’ll get our reminder text. “Hey guys, our next Quarterly Retreat is coming up.” Rather than go spinning off the rails and falling into the ravine, you get an opportunity to correct course and get back on track. Quickly. 

That’s the magic of FamilyC. It’s an amazing process, guard-railed by the power of a quarterly rhythm. 

Of course you could read this page and be like, “I think we could just copy this formula and do this ourselves.” Yeah, you could. But will you? Actually? 

If you’re like the rest of us, how much more likely are you to succeed if you make an commitment, use a proven process, and connect with a group of like-minded parents who are moving the same direction? 

Which brings us to another part of the experience that makes it magical. Guess who you’re going to be surrounded by while going through this process? Other couples just like you. Authentic, thoughtful, intentional people who also want to create even more love, ease, and fun in their family lives. Sure, you’ll have plenty of privacy during the workshop to process private things, but you’ll also have the benefit of hearing group shares where you get validation, insights, and a sense of normalcy when you hear about others’ challenges and experiences. Have you ever noticed how a sense of community makes everything easier and more fun? 

In addition to the Quarterly Retreats, you will be invited to attend optional, monthly workshops that focus on proven tools that make family life more loving, easy, and fun. For example, they include tools to help you discover and align your values. Tools to help you create a short- and long-term vision that excites you both. Tools to help you connect more deeply and consistently with your kiddos. And so many more. These tools will not only immediately elevate the energy in some area of your relationship or family life, but will continue to spin off benefits long after you stop paying us at FamilyC. The rhythms, tools, and mindsets you’ll pick up with us are elegant solutions you pay for once and benefit from for decades. 

Oh…another thing. Remember that online course you bought that wasn’t worth nearly what you paid? Well, your value here is guaranteed. At any point in the first 90 days, if you feel like this just isn't for you, you get 100% of your money back. We know it can take time to feel into an experience to see if it's a fit, and–like you–we're only interested in right-fit relationships.

And don’t worry. If you’re asking “Yeah, but can we really make time for this?” then the program was designed specifically FOR you. It’s one day every three months. Are you willing to carve out  1% of your time to work ON your family life instead of only working IN it? And it's convenient! This gig’s here in town so there’s no travel. You can come while your kids are at school. You don’t have to buy plane tickets or get on a three-hour Zoom call. Just show up in comfy clothes, be ready to turn your phones off for a few hours, and we’ll take it from there, including materials, snacks, drinks, and lunch. 

Now, this isn’t for everyone. First off, not everyone can afford it. But the bigger issue is that some of us aren’t quite ready to have what we say we want. We’re too invested in worn-out stories about why we can’t have deeper love, ease, or fun in our family life rather than find ways what we want is actually available to us. Right now. This moment. 

Most of us run some kind of victim script like this at times, but if you’re not ready to shake out of it, FamilyC probably isn’t for you. 

It takes courage, and a little bit of hope and optimism to get the future we really want. 

Believe us, we know. 

In 2013, we hit our low point. Baby number four was a few months old and we were dealing with the pressures of small kids, postpartum depression, and building a business. James had an ideal in his head of a partner who woke up early, hit the gym, made a healthy breakfast, got the kids to school, cleaned the house, had a delicious dinner ready in the evening, and then blew his mind sexually every night or two. Ange just wanted to be supported and appreciated, and to have a little time to herself for her own nurturing and well-being. James is an optimizer, and Ange just wants to live, dammit. When we finally got honest with each other about what we wanted, our differing sets of expectations had a head-on collision. Over the months that followed, we both felt so much sadness, misunderstanding, frustration, judgement, and guilt! We weren’t sure anymore whether being together was still our best option. 

Maybe your story is like ours. Maybe it’s worse. All we can say is that it suuuuucked.

But eventually we came around to a few questions that hooked us: 

“What would it look like to be FULLY OURSELVES in the presence of each other?”

“How would it feel if we learned to SEE and VALUE each other without needing to change each other?”

“How might we each bring our unique gifts to our family in a UNIFIED APPROACH?”

These questions got us excited and over time they motivated us to let go of ideals that were in the way, and to re-integrate core parts of ourselves that we had orphaned off to "fit in" with each other. As we slowly experimented with taking total ownership of our own lives, we began to find safe allies in ourselves and in each other. We read a bunch, went to therapy, listened to podcasts, and did a shit ton of practice with each other. Over time, we learned how to hold space for each other with compassion and skill, and we found a sense of unity that we thought was impossible. We learned a few key skills and simplified and practiced them until they got into our muscle memory. 

So, yeah, it’s been a beautiful journey. We celebrate every day that we mustered the courage because now our relationship and family life truly feel amazing. There’s more love, ease, and fun than we dared to imagine were possible. Most of all, everything feels so light and free. So easy to be ourselves, our true selves, in the presence of each other and our children. It’s magical. And because it’s guard-railed by systems and processes (rather than our own fickle will or discipline) we’re really confident in our future together. 

This is why we’re doing FamilyC. For us, figuring this stuff out has been so satisfying that we can’t NOT share it. And we're both social creatures who enjoy collaborating with other couples and being part of something bigger than ourselves. 

So how do you get a spot in FamilyC? 

If you’ve read the above and are ready to see if we're a fit for each other, just click Register Now and join us for an Evening Workshop. This is a casual, low-stakes way for us to get to know each other and for you to see the type of value we provide.

If the Evening Workshop goes well, the next step is to attend your first Quarterly Workshop. This is your chance to experience the other couples in FamilyC and the full process of the Quarterly Retreats for yourself. If you like this trial workshop, and we have space available, you'll have the opportunity to enroll in the annual membership, which includes Quarterly Retreats, member-only integration of the tools we provide in our free monthly workshops, and the option to receive weekly community inspiration from us. The cost is $1997 per year, or $1200 for single parents. 

As you join your first workshop, keep in mind that even though you'll experience immediate results, this isn't a quick-fix scheme. It takes time to get the full benefit of some of the rhythms, tools, and mindsets we will introduce you to.

There are a limited number of seats available, so if this resonates we kindly suggest you click Register Now and get the ball rolling. We can’t wait to meet you at an upcoming Evening Workshop!

With love,

James and Ange